Friday, October 20, 2017

Arrogant Dance Snobs

Nobody in our dance world on Oahu is that bad. The only difference is that arrogant dancers try to hide their anxiety about screwing up by presenting "perfection" and "confidence", while insecure dancers apologize constantly as a way to explain why they’re so "bad". That is why social dancers try really, really hard to not get angry at "arrogant" dancers. None of us are perfect. What has helped most of us has been the awareness, and conscious avoidance of default behaviors when we feel anxious.

“Social dancers know that the job of feet is walking, but the real joy is dancing.”  


Granted, not every arrogant dancer suffers from anxiety. Some legitimately just think they’re amazing (whether or not they actually are). Mostly it applies to competition and exhibition dancers. But, we prefer to give people who appear arrogant the benefit of the doubt. Whether you’d like to do the same is up to you. we’ve seen (and had) a lot of different reactions to anxiety. Not all show up as arrogance. So we are not clones we are all separate individuals.

"Tiny Bubbles" by Don Ho


Social dancers understand the desire to ‘look capable’ in workshops and dancing. It has been one of the things that we struggled with most – especially when some begin transitioning from intermediate social dancer to more advanced dancing. From experience, we can also say that it’s possible to manage the anxiety – even if it never goes away. We can still get anxious when we are in the position of "student", and struggle with the need to "prove" ourselves on the ballroom dance floor.

"Walk With Me Through Paradise" by Melveen Leed

What is life?
 
Life is living in this moment, experiencing and experimenting but experience isn’t life. -- Life is reflecting and meditating but reflection isn’t life. -- Life is helping and guiding but philanthropy isn’t life. -- Life is eating and drinking but food isn’t life. -- Life is reading and dancing but art isn’t life. -- Life is kissing and pleasuring but sex isn’t life. -- Life is winning and losing but competition isn’t life. -- Life is loving and caring but love isn’t life. -- Life is birthing and nurturing but children aren’t life. -- Life is letting go and surrendering but death isn’t life. -- Life is all these things but all these things aren’t life. --- Life is always more.”
 ― Kamand Kojouri

Monday, October 16, 2017

This Week

We have had several perfect examples of why we need information contributors, photo contributors and even the big prize for all, "The Guest Blogger." I received some Email from Marie, Maile and Renna of some goodies that I can passed on to our relatives, friends and fellow dancers by blogging. They get better all the time of being good information contributors. I have five blogs to take care of and sure need some help. Of course I intend to donate a camera to Dance Appeal Studio. Why?

"Often the only thing standing between dancers and their dreams is the will
to do what is necessary and the faith to believe it is possible.”


An information and/or photo contributor could send me the information "in time" to fit it in for the benefit of all concerned. It would make it a lot easier for me. I am also looking to make my best blog into an independent (from me.) There would be enough Guest Bloggers that could open, write it up including photos, publish and close it up all without saying Boo to anyone. their own. I am going to find those dancers, sooner or later.

"Granada" ... Placido Domingo


On Oahu, we need any dancer that does not have a Web site and that would like to communicate with the reader/dancers of this community. If you have a Web site you probably think you already have it made. You are probably right. In our case, it’s all about you - this isn't a reporting job - it's blogging. There are no registration forms or fees. Nothing annually or monthly. You write what you want to say when you want to say it. Do it on your schedule, whether that means posting multiple entries per week or a couple times a month.

"I Will Remember You" by Don Ho

Pub's Note: I went into this club and the music was terrific and when the song ended, I mentioned to this nice lady what nice moves she was dancing. She replied, "Who's dancing? Quick, where is the ladies room?"

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Hot Stuff

By Fred Kim, Kalealoa:
Social Dancing is not that unique. If you are someone who doesn’t deal with this anxiety, please try to have patience for those who do. Instead of assuming a person is arrogant, recognize that they may be dealing with something under the surface. Patience and understanding in social dancing is something that we can all cultivate in ourselves. We can all afford to be less judgmental of the people we dance with.

“Social Dance can become ritual. We may be washed clean of preconceptions
and fears and we can enjoy the luxury of being ourselves.”


More understanding costs us nothing, and can create a better experience for everyone. So, the next time you come across that man or lady with the puffed-up chest in class, remember that they may be terrified of screwing up. And as fellow dancers we all have the power to help them slowly learn that screwing up is OK by showing patience and understanding. Let us just accept that some of us are slower than others.

"I Can Dream, Can't I" by the Andrews Sisters


The next time you see that lady who says she “gets it” even if she doesn’t, remember that she may have fought a truckload of anxiety to even dance in public. She may be trying to “fake it ’til she makes it”. You have the ability to make her feel OK admitting she doesn’t know it all yet by accepting mistakes with grace (both hers and your own). Do you have any stories of anxiety, or thoughts to share? Leave them in the comments

 "Social Dancers believe that you can be creative only if you love life enough
that you want to enhance its beauty, want to bring a little more
music to it,  a little more dance to it.”
 

Sunday, October 8, 2017

Central Valley People

The West seems to be moving along just fine. We are going to see what the resident dancers do to help get the interest of the dancers in this area.. Perhaps they won't need anyone. We shall soon know. They all seem to be well aware of the music. Don’t get too far off of the music of the dance you are supposed to be dancing. A Rumba with some of the other mickey mouse music, is just not Da Reel Teeng. Now if you want to do Rumba steps and do it to other music, it is your dance we have not engraved anything on stone. That is why you have 3000 different dances out there and you can take you pick.

"Dance is your pulse, your heartbeat, your breathing. It's the rhythm of your life.
It's the expression in time and movement, in happiness, joy, sadness and envy."


More news from Consumer Reports on Facebook:
Senator Franken has said that he is particularly concerned about the potential violation of children's privacy if Facebook implements the new policy. "Kids should not be able to give that information away to strangers even if they wanted to." Facebook recently began testing a program to use status updates and other information to deliver highly targeted ads. So if you post that you are looking for a car, you might find ads from auto dealers peppering the screen. Some might welcome such customization, but others might consider it an invasion of privacy. Regardless, such plans raise questions about what else the service hopes to do with the immediate data of personal information it controls. Consumers' concerns might be allayed if they had more of a say, in what Facebook does with their personal information.

Rumor is that the city of Phnom Penh is gonna have a name change? Phat Chance.

Calvin and Hobbes dancing the new Wahiawa Shag

"No person has made a bigger mistake than the one who did
nothing because they could only do so little."

Salsa in Cancun slowing down.

From Wilfred Martinez, Cancun, Mexico:

I have been out of the Salsa scene in Cancun for quite awhile now, but on my last birthday I WENT OUT. I mean WENT OUT for real, I didn’t get home until 3 am. This inspired me to write a post about the current state of Salsa dancing in Cancun and the surrounding area. First of all, let’s get this straight…La Candela, Batacha, Melao, Sabor Latino and my personal favorite, Azucar are all closed. There were many other places that opened for a short while and then closed again, but these are the big ones. 

"Some drink at the fountain of knowledge. Others just gargle."


There have been rumors about Sabor Latino and even Azucar opening again with Bachata but I won’t believe it until I see it. Now don’t despair, there are still a few places to dance Salsa in Cancun: Grand Mambo Cafe is open where Sabor Latino used to be in Plaza Hong Kong. They are open Wednesday- Saturday. The live group starts around midnight. This is the largest Salsa club in Cancun. No telling how long it will last. Let's enjoy it while we can.

"Moliendo Cafe" por Azucar Moreno


The Rumba has been danced for about two centuries and it will still be good for the rest of the present century. But the mature experienced dancers are very conservative when it comes to dancing. The Cha Cha Cha has only been in existence for about six decades, but such a fun dance and the MUSIC is out of this world. It will be here for the rest of this century. And every year we will get many new arrivals into the mature dancing scene..

"There are three types of people in the world.
Those who understand binary, and those who don’t"


Tuesday, October 3, 2017

The Bossa Nova

Excerpt from the Dance Review.
Bossa Nova remains to this day, some of the best music in the world with some of the best movements to go with it. And it came into being when there were a lot of fad dances coming in. In the US and Europe, the local ones were backed heavily by the local disciplines and dance studios. The Bossa Nova articulated existing social differences in the United States, those of the elite versus the masses attempting to attain elite status, and the subsequent devaluation of the musical style as a result of its success.

"Dance music doesn't care where you live. It doesn't care who your friends
are. It doesn't care how much money you make. It doesn't care
if you're 74 or if you are 24 because it is for everyone."


In addition, there were fundamental shifts in how musicians arranged Bossa Nova songs in their recordings to cut across those social divisions for mass-market appeal. For this reason, the sounds of the music as recorded or practiced by musicians are as important as the performance  and spectatorship of the Bossa Nova dance for explaining the rapid spread of the Bossa Nova as dance throughout U.S. popular culture. This was especially true as expressed in print media, recordings, and television programs.

"Chica, Chica, Boom, Chic" by Carmen Miranda


Bossa Nova’s transformation into a social dance in the U.S. is crucial to its international history, but it had an established social context long before all of that dancing. Bossa Nova as a social movement began in the late 1950s among a group of musicians in the richest areas of Rio de Janeiro’s south zone. The musicians involved, took the basic polyrhythmic elements of urban samba and transformed them to a cosmopolitan perspective that matched the overall mood of the period. At the time, the upper classes in Brazil were experiencing a rush of optimism in country. In the US it went the way of all fads.

"Social Dancers know there's good deeds and then there's good intentions.
They are as far apart as Heaven and Hell."

Saturday, September 30, 2017

West Coast Swing

Simply because it evolved in the Western part of the US, it acquired the name Western Swing prior to WWII. "West Coast swing" as a synonym for "Western swing" appears in a 1961 dance book, and was used in an advertisement by Skippy Blair in 1962 but wasn't incorporated into mainstream swing circles until the late 1960s Western Swing did not lose it all until the late 70s. And West Coast Swing became a slotted dance.

"Beginners go to many concerts and listen to a lot of good music. They love the
experience, but they don't dance, they just jig up and down like everybody else."


The slot is an imaginary area, long and thin, eight or nine feet long if danced at a very slow Tempo, but shorter if the music is at a faster tempo. The follower travels back and forth in the slot dancing straight through the lead. The leader consistently moves a minimum amount (at mid-way point) to his sides, barely out of her way. She lightly brushes against him each time she passes him. Socially, it is considered good etiquette (particularly on a crowded floor) to use a fixed slot, in order to allow dancing without incident.

"Fly Me To The Moon" by Jimmy Borges
 

Received from Roscel Garcia

Having danced the slot repeatedly, the couple "has a claim" on the area, and other couples usually cooperate and establish their own slot parallel with the dancers. If the dance floor is not crowded and the couple is afforded more space, such as during a competitive event, the dancers may move the slot around the floor more liberally.

“Social Dancers know that there is a vitality, a life force, an energy,
that may translate into moving to music and because there is
only one of you in all time, this expression is unique."